I bet when snakes shed their skin it’s uncomfortable; or when a hermit crab has to find a new home, I imagine him feeling bereft and vulnerable.
Why do I bring this up? Lately, I’ve been thinking about how we grow as individuals and how we cope with changes. Often, it’s not an enjoyable process.
While change is constant, often it’s not something we welcome because we’ve adapted to our creature comforts. Usually it’s an outside force that causes us to change, but how do we initiate that change on our own?
In order to grow, we need to force ourselves into the uncomfortable parts of our mind. We must tear away the film of naïveté that covers our eyes, and we must be willing to face the hard truths. Then, and only then, can we work our way back, stronger than before.
So how do we get to the other side?
- Be truthful with yourself. We can lie to everyone else, but we should always admit the truth to ourselves no matter how ugly the truth is.
- Self-reflect. This is especially crucial during times of difficulty. When others wrong us, placing 100% of the blame on them is a natural response, but we have to go beyond that. We need to look at the situation from all angles and figure out how we can improve, learn, and change.
- Take appropriate action. That’s the only way we can prove to ourselves that change has occurred. It’s like when people tell you they work out, but they don’t look like they do. Results matter.
- Don’t stop. Growth is continual, and if we’re not growing, we’re stagnant and in danger of backpedaling.
If we continue on this path, at some point we’ll look at ourselves and see a different person, someone closer to the person we always knew we wanted to be. You see, no one wants to be weak and miserable. The struggle is in disentangling ourselves from whatever it is that holds us back. It all starts with a mind shift followed by measurable action.
How do you work on self-growth? What are you currently working on? If you have any advice, comment below. I love reading your thoughts.
Until next time,